It's becoming more and more popular for people in relationships to refer to each other as "my partner" instead of calling each other boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, or husband. But exactly what is a partner in a relationship, and what's the difference between calling someone partner vs. terms like boyfriend, significant other, or spouse?
Partner is simply a way of describing someone you're romantically or sexually involved with. It doesn't necessarily indicate any particular level of seriousness or commitment, although some people do tend to associate the word with a more committed relationship.
The word partner is not new. According to Jen Doll's reporting in the Atlantic, the term arose around the 14th century to connote a more equal relationship between a married man and woman, in comparison to the gendered marriage terms husband and wife that'd been used since the 11th and ninth centuries respectively. Husband originally meant "master of the house," Doll reports, so you can see the need for an update.
But of course, the terms husband and wife have endured as well, and their gender-neutral counterparts still catch eyes. That's why Jennifer Siebel Newsom, who is married to California's governor Gavin Newsom, made headlines when she announced she'd be referred to as "first partner" instead of "first lady."
Even if we don't intend them that way, words carry with them deeply rooted underlying meanings and historical weight, says relationship and well-being coach Shula Melamed, M.A., MPH. Words like boyfriend and girlfriend may not necessarily suggest an unequal relationship, but they do nod toward the traditional roles men and women have played (and have been expected to play) in their relationships. Girlfriends are cute, needy, emotional, and controlling; boyfriends are protective, clueless, and hard to hold down. These characterizations are obviously not true in all or even most cases, and yet they ring in our ears as truisms because we've been enculturated with them.
Especially when it comes to marriage, some married people "might feel that the terms wife or husband have some traditional implications or historical weight that doesn't reflect their relationship," Melamed says. Using partner, on the other hand, is "a way to express equity in the relationship" with one single word. Partner is free from all the cultural baggage layered onto all its gendered alternatives.
The gender-neutral word also destabilizes heteronormativity more broadly by forcing people to ditch their assumptions about what kind of person you're dating. (For example, as a prolific sex writer, I write about my own relationship regularly without mentioning my partner's name, and that word choice prompts you to recognize that you have no clue about what my partner's gender is. It challenges people to avoid assumptions.)
Some people gravitate toward the word partner because they want their relationship to be taken seriously by others, even if they're not married. Melamed says she knows many couples who have been together a long time, share a life and a home, and are deeply committed, and boyfriend and girlfriend just don't reflect the depth of their relationship. Furthermore, not all couples intend to get married, and it's nice to have the choice of a label that's distinct from the ones they used for all their short-lived high school romances.
You might be thinking: What about the term significant other? Although this term also accomplishes the same gender-neutral and serious energy as partner, some people take issue with the way significant other implies that everyone only has one significant person in their life and that that relationship must be a romantic one. Doesn't that somewhat minimize the importance of friendships, family ties, and our other meaningful relationships? (My mother, for one, is certainly an S.O. in my book.)
After news of the affair broke in August 2020, Jerry stepped down from his position at Liberty University, the private evangelical university in Virginia that his father co-founded. According to the Washington Post, he walked away with $10.5 million in pay without admitting to any wrongdoing. He also denied being involved with Granda, though he and his wife both confessed that she had an affair with him.
Other reasons you might get recurrent UTIs are: having a new partner, having a family history of them, living with diabetes or pelvic organ prolapse, transitioning to menopause (the increased dryness that results when estrogen levels drop can increase your odds), or having difficulty fully emptying your bladder, Yavagal says.
Yavagal says if you come down with a UTI frequently, ask your doctor to do a culture one time to be sure this is actually what you have. A chronic bladder condition known as interstitial cystitis (IC) is sometimes mistaken for a UTI, she says. You should be especially suspicious if the antibiotics you have taken for your UTIs in the past have not sufficiently helped.
Thanks for your query. This is possibly condyloma, a sexually transmitted disease caused by the Human Papillomavirus (HPV). Condylomas can appear on the skin in any part of the genital area. The warts can vary in size but are usually flesh-colored and cauliflower-like on the surface. To avoid further spread of the virus, condom use is recommended. They can be treated in many ways. A common technique is to have them removed by freezing them with liquid nitrogen. I recommend you to see a dermatologist or visit a STD-clinic to confirm the assessment and get further treatment.
It may be herpes genitals infection, which is triggered by the Herpes simplex virus. The virus can be latent in the body for years and can recur. Certain triggers can cause the herpes virus to travel back through the nerve to the surface of the skin, otherwise known as a recurrence. Recurrences can and do happen, even for people who have normal immune systems. Triggers are physical and emotional stress, infection, tissue damage, changes in the immune system and fatigue. It can be treated with oral antiviral medicines. I recommend you contact a dermatologist or an STD clinic for testing with PCR, further treatment and information.
Based on the information and images submitted, this is possibly SCABIES. Not a sex rash but Scabies are inflammatory lesions caused by a mite that digs burrows in the skin. This parasite is transmitted through direct physical contact with another person with scabies. The lesions cause itching which can be severe. This itch is more common during the evening/night. Lesions like this do not always itch however. Before treating the lesions, it is of utmost importance to confirm the assessment with a dermatologist in person. In addition, these lesions could be FOLLICULITIS (infection of the hair follicle) or an STD. You should see a dermatologist as soon as possible for evaluation, testing and treatment.
My husband is 55 years old and has molluscum contagiosum in his pubic hair and on his penis. He is being treated by a local dermatologist. I was told by him that he probably got it from using a dirty towel from a health club at the hotel he stayed at in Barcelona. I have been reading online and it says the chances of him getting it from a dirty towel in the pubic area is slim to none. They are saying direct skin to skin contact. What do you think? P.S. Those photos are not of him. But the app would not let me send a question without a photo. He is being treated. I just would like to pay you for the answer to my question. Received 28th August 2015 at 3:12 am Answered 28th August 2015 at 9:41 am
Based on the information and images submitted, this is possibly SYPHILIS: a sexually transmitted infection caused by a bacteria known as Treponema pallidum. The first sign of infection is usually a firm, painless ulcer or sore known as a chancre, which usually appears at the point of infection in the genital area. This infection can be treated with high doses of penicillin (antibiotics). I recommend that you see a dermatologist or go to an STD clinic as soon as possible. Testing is necessary to confirm the assessment.
I am a 27 years old male. There are small red sores on the head of my penis. They showed up about two weeks ago. went away for a couple of days and come back. Sometimes they will dry up and have flaky skin on them. There is no pain accompanied with these.
Thank you for sending your case. Based on the information and images, this is possibly FOLLICULITIS. Folliculitis is a very common skin condition. It is caused by an inflammation of the hair roots. Disruption of the skin can cause small sores in the skin allowing bacteria and other irritants to enter and inflame the hair follicles. It can be both infectious or noninfectious. I would recommend applying a topical steroid cream (eg hydrocortisone 1% sold over-the-counter) twice daily for a week to start with, then once daily for another week, then every other day for two weeks. Also, keep the area clean with antibacterial soaps or solutions (e.g. Chlorhexidine). Also, avoid shaving until the lesions have cleared. If it does not improve within a few weeks, see a dermatologist in person.
From information and images, it is possibly SKIN TAG (ACROCHORDON), a benign outgrowth of the skin which can appear anywhere on the body (e.g. neck, armpits, trunk or the genital area). In the case of vaginal skin tags, the most likely time for these to appear is often after pregnancy but also due to to hormonal changes. They can sometimes become irritated due to friction. Treatment is not necessary but can be done by a dermatologist through cauterization (burning), cryosurgery (freezing) or excision (minor surgery). If it grows, changes or you continue with discomfort.
Based on the information and images submitted, this is possibly PSORIASIS, a chronic non-contagious inflammatory disease of the skin which can present at any age. Red patches usually with white scales are seen on different skin areas, sometimes like in your case on the scalp and in the genital area. Nevertheless, it can appear anywhere on the skin. A variable amount of itching can be experienced or none at all. Sometimes there are more family members with the condition. I recommend that you see a dermatologist or your family physician in order to obtain prescriptions. If there is waiting time to get an appointment you may apply mild steroid cream such as 1% Hydrocortisone cream (available over-the-counter without a prescription) twice daily during the first week, then once every day during a couple of weeks and later every other day. 2b1af7f3a8